Trauma: The Invisible Wounds We Carry

Trauma: The Invisible Wounds We Carry
Trauma, unlike physical wounds, is often concealed from plain view. Emmylou Antonieth Seaman, a trauma healing therapist, aptly observes, “Have you ever wondered why your actions and thoughts sometimes seem incomprehensible, as if they belong to someone else entirely?” Growing up in a dysfunctional family or enduring childhood trauma can imprint deep-seated patterns within us, hidden beneath the surface of our conscious awareness. This covert realm can be a source of enigma, evoking fear and a sense of being powerless. To avoid confronting these concealed truths, individuals often resort to destructive behaviors. In such environments, our capacity to cope and make sound decisions is naturally impaired. As young children, we primarily learn through observation and imitation, absorbing the dynamics surrounding us. This can result in inadequate coping mechanisms and a lack of comprehension of our own actions. When we don’t even understand the motivations behind our behavior or the timing of our emotional shifts, trusting ourselves becomes a formidable challenge.”

She further expounds, “Our inherent need for control and competence is vital for our well-being and survival. However, encountering aspects of ourselves that feel unacceptable, embarrassing, or out of control can exacerbate fear. We yearn for understanding, yet we also fear it. Confronting the truth and embarking on a healing journey can be overwhelming, as change itself can be daunting. It’s imperative to recognize that embracing change and healing demands immense strength. Despite feeling overwhelmed or remorseful about our past, there may be resistance to delving into our hidden selves and acquiring healthier means to manage our impulses and reactions. Nevertheless, by gradually peeling back the layers of our experiences, we can commence the process of reclaiming our sense of self, finding healing, and progressing toward a more empowered and fulfilling life.”

The Therapist Shares 8 Covert Habits of Individuals Who Have Experienced Childhood Trauma:

  1. Emotional Shutdown: Retreating emotionally and feigning indifference when confronted or during arguments.
  2. Masked Pain: Laughing even when hurt to prevent others from feeling uncomfortable.
  3. Submissive Decision-Making: Accepting others overriding their decisions, believing others know what’s best.
  4. Detachment: Capable of easily cutting people out of their lives and ceasing to care about them.
  5. Defensive Laughter: Laughing or smiling when making comments to parents to avoid immediate offense.
  6. Over-apologizing: Frequent use of ‘I am sorry’ even when not at fault.
  7. Prepared Responses: Having pre-planned responses ready for various conversations as a means to navigate potential triggers.
  8. Perfectionist Responses: Becoming emotionally paralyzed while trying to craft the ‘perfect response’ in real-time conversations.

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No matter when abuse or trauma was experienced, seeking help and support from a professional is always a viable option.

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